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Narcissism, Narcissist and the Narcissistic Wound (The Diamond Approach Perspective)

Narcissism, Narcissist and the Narcissistic Wound (The Diamond Approach Perspective)
By John Harper

These three terms, narcissism, narcissist and narcissistic have been three of the top search terms bringing visitors to our website for years and years, long before the 2016 election.

Many thousands, and tens of thousands and hundreds of thousands of people want to understand more about narcissism and narcissists. The vast majority are seeking knowledge on how to recognize narcissism and deal with (or live with) a narcissist.

We’re all narcissists. We suffer with narcissism considered normal.

Narcissism is part and parcel of ego self. Ego self, the narcissistic self, is the self that 99.9999% of the world take to be who they are.

Narcissism is the result of a disonnection, a forgetting of one's true nature. At the core of the narcissitc self, the ego self, is the narcissitic wound, one of the most painful experiences of human loss - the loss of the true self and its ontological ground.

The Diamond Approach has a great deal of knowledge, wisdom and teaching on the self, individual consciousness, identity and ego. Consequently, there is a great deal of insight into narcissism, it’s fundamental roots, and what it brings to the human experience. 

A. H. Almaas has written two profoundly insightful books that bring clarity and precision to the intersection and interface of the spiritual and psychological terrain of the self and identity. These are The Pearl Beyond Price: Integration of Personality Into Being, an Object Relations Approach and The Point of Existence: Transformations of Narcissism in Self-realization.

These two books have been referenced in countless psychological and spiritual articles and books as well as master theses and doctoral dissertations.

According to Almaas, all manifestations of narcissism including clinical or pathological narcissism originate in, and are exaggerations of, a condition of “fundamental narcissism,” the estrangement of the self from its ontological ground. Whereas Freud saw the experience of wholeness and perfection in primary narcissism as delusional, Almaas claims this as an authentic state of “primary self-realization” in which the infant is nondually immersed in its essential nature. Due to both natural developmental factors and environmental failures, however, there is a rupture in identity: the infant begins to identify with self-representations derived from the retained impressions from early object relations and becomes progressively alienated from true nature. Tracing this process, Almaas utilizes ego psychology, object-relations and, particularly, self-psychology, to delineate four major forms of narcissism: oral, central, oedipal, and individuation, each of which corresponds to a particular developmental stage and arises due to the loss of the specific essential aspect associated with that stage. The Culture of Narcissism Revisited: Transformations of Narcissism in Contemporary Psychospirituality by Ann Gleig

Sounds True is hosting an online summit on narcissism that will feature 20 speakers from various fields and perspectives on narcissism. A. H. Almaas will be addressing “Narcissism as a Barrier to Self-realization.” (The Ridhwan Foundation has an affiliate relationship with Spounds True)

Here are some insights and introductions to a few of the other presenters:

  • It is not uncommon for an individual with narcissistic personality disorder to be bothered by what others think of them and only want to be held in high regard. Hence, they use their audience to reflect back how special they are. Basic Differences Between Psychopathy & Narcissistic Personality Disorder by Rhonda Freeman, PhD
  • The most shocking insight which I had, and there was more than one, was that as a victim of Narcissists and an ACoN (Adult Child of Narcissists), my status required that I spend a lot of time and energy talking about Narcissists. Caroline Myss
  • I fear that it (self love) has twisted into something else, a motivator teaching people that what really matters is seeing yourself as better than you actually are. This is where the lines between narcissistic traits and self-admiration become blurred.  Questions surrounding narcissism | Emily Bebenek 2017 (ninth-grade student's Ted Talk

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