It still amazes me how much depth, fulfillment, ease, and freedom my many years in the Diamond Approach have opened for me. Over time, this has touched not only my spiritual journey, but also my everyday life—as a mother, wife, psychotherapist, and in the way I inhabit my body. I notice it in the quiet patience I bring to a conversation, in the moments I feel at home with myself while I am gardening, or in the fullness of embodyment and presence I sense when dancing Argentine tango, my body moving in attunement to music and partner.
Again and again, I have found that the key to almost everything lies in turning inward. This opens the way to whatever needs to be experienced next - what needs to be understood and learned for me in that moment. Sometimes it has meant feeling my hurt, or even my hatred, in a conflict more deeply. Other times it has meant discovering unexpected pleasure in stillness. What unfolds is the natural blossoming of the soul, guided not by my own ideas, but by the inherent intelligence of our being.
You are welcome just as you are. You don’t need to know or be anything more than who you are today. My own unfoldment in this work has been gradual, like a river carving its path over time. I believe this has deepened my patience and my genuine curiosity about wherever another human being may find within themselves. I remember sitting with a student who was convinced they were “getting nowhere,” and then - simply by allowing that feeling to be here and breathing with it - seeing their eyes soften as they felt a simple truth in themselves. Over time, you too may discover that you are already exactly where you need to be.
I had been searching - longing for depth and for getting to the very core of things. A conversation with a Diamond Approach student sparked my curiosity, and I attended my first retreat in 1996. I knew almost nothing about the Diamond Approach and felt cautious, even skeptical. Yet what I encountered there felt surprisingly right in ways I couldn’t yet explain. I could open, relax, and settle. I remember one quiet moment, sitting by a window during the retreat, when a deep sense of “this is real” settled in me, while at the same time realizing that what I was hearing spoke directly to my heart and made clear, grounded sense to my mind. It took years to fully appreciate the vastness and beauty of this path, but that first glimpse was enough to keep me exploring.
It is yours to explore. If it feels right, you are free to dive into the surprises you find inside, and you are equally free to leave at any time. But if this is your path, you may find that with each new exploration, it becomes richer, more fascinating, and deeply fulfilling ... like walking into a landscape that keeps revealing new horizons the further you go.